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It’s All About the Moments

Could Instead of Should

It’s 5 am.  I am sleeping all warm and snug in my bed when I feel a touch on my arm and my sweetheart says, “Baby you gotta come see the sunrise over the lake.”  

I have that moment of hazy hesitation having just been in a deep sleep, but my heart opens, I feel myself smile and I take the moment.  We walk silently together to our front deck and I suck in that deep breathe of awe at the amazing beauty of Mother Nature…there is something about the sun rising and setting over water that is magical!  The sky is an impressionist painting of wild pink, purple, peach, yellow and orange stretched as far as we can see.  We stand still for just a few quiet moments holding hands and taking it all in. “It is so beautiful!” I say.  “It is, he says as he takes leave to begin his day.  I stand there just a few moments longer, alone and acknowledging this moment.  My thoughts go deep…
     I go to the importance of being present and of honoring a positive impulse.  I think of how loved and connected I felt that Joel chose to take the time, wake me up, and ask me out to the sunrise with him.  This seems like such a little thing, but the ripple effect is powerful.  It is so important for us to acknowledge “moments” rather than letting them slip away under all the things that get in our head.  You know, he could have not woke me because it was too early.   I could have said, “I am too warm, tired, comfy.”  That sunrise would have come and gone and we would have missed such a sweet moment for ourselves and together.  
     This was an opportunity to use should thinking (from the head).   “I should let her sleep.”  “I should stay in my warm bed.” or could thinking (from the heart).  “I could share this beauty with her.”  “I could start my day with my sweetheart and the sunrise”.  I find myself wondering why we all don’t go with the coulds more often and how we let all the shoulds get in our way.  I see how this is about capturing opportunities and making choices that feed our wants and desires and just how often we DON’T do that!  I mean, who wouldn’t want to start the day this way?!  It was one of those precious little moments that happened because he wanted me to see this beauty and he went for it and I got out of my warm bed.   
     I encourage you to gift yourself and those you love with being present and taking in those moments, really opening yourself to the experience and the energy that is there for you.  The next time you are moved by something, think of someone, have a desire- go for it!  Ask it, take it, share it-make moments and memories born from the heart.  When we honor our desires in these little ways, it opens us to making bigger choices and decisions from a place of our desire and that leads to a way of life filled with passion, purpose and play.  Seizing the moment is so Hot Pink!!  
With Big Hugs and Love,

Ann Murgatroyd-Soe, MSSW, LCSW, Hot Pink YOUniversity  Helping women to reignite their passions, their purpose and their play!


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